It’s been a couple months since my last…Dr. Pepper. Quitting soda is one of the hardest, but most rewarding things you can do for your body. I was drinking a couple of 16.9oz. bottles almost everyday of the week. When I think about all of the sugar and caffeine I was putting into my body, I wonder how my body could function after all that. I haven’t really noticed a difference since I stopped drinking soda, but I have to imagine that my insides are thanking me. I have now switched to drinking lots and lots of water.

Along with soda, I have stopped drinking milk. I love milk, but my body hates it. I’ve struggled over the years with getting sick after eating some kinds of ice cream, dishes with lots of dairy, and recently started having problems with milk. I can eat yogurt, cottage cheese, and some cheese without becoming ill. Although those foods haven’t made me sick (yet), I’ve cut them out of my diet.

Due to an unofficial diagnosis of PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) by my gynecologist a few months back, I’ve started monitoring the sugar and simple carbohydrates I put into my body. I say an unofficial diagnosis, because I have most of the symptoms, but I haven’t went through all the tests to prove whether I for sure have PCOS. Last fall, I started gaining weight out of the blue. I have always been thin with the exception of the time I gained weight from an anti-depressant. Other symptoms that developed were cystic acne, migraines, skipped menstrual cycles, and an intense pain in my left ovary. My regular doctor had put me on an oral contraceptive to hopefully line out my hormonal issues, but I eventually went to a gynecologist after I felt a horrible pain coming from my ovary. The pain was so sharp and horrific that I was briefly unable to move. The gynecologist later informed me that the pain most likely stemmed from a ruptured cyst.

Since I have been eating healthier and exercising, I definitely notice a difference in how my body feels. My acne, while still present, has diminished some. My weight loss is rather slow, but I am starting to see the scale drop a little at a time. Sometimes I do still feel a twinge of pain, but it is a lot less than it used to be. After all, I am only a little over a month into my journey of becoming healthier.

Do you or anyone you know struggle with PCOS? I’d love to hear any advice or tips about living with PCOS.

Anxiety, Depression, and Me

(Disclaimer: Before I discuss a few of my experiences battling anxiety and depression, I wish to make clear to my readers that I am NOT against the use of anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medicines. I had side effects from a few of the medicines I was prescribed, but I am also very sensitive to medications in general. I think that medicine can be great to help sufferers of depression and anxiety. What matters is that you find something that works for you!)

Anxiety has been a presence in my life since I was six years old–depression since age eight. At the age of 27, I still fight both illnesses. My depression and anxiety became so severe at age 12, I was placed on my first anti-depressant. The only thing that tiny, white pill did for me was disrupt my sleep. They tried me on other medications, but yet again, I was having intense side effects. One medicine’s side effects gave me migraines so severe that I was bedridden for several hours until the medicine wore off. Frustrated with the side effects, I decided to stop taking anti-depressants altogether.

Throughout my high school years, my mental health fluctuated. Some days I did well, yet others I was barely able to function. After graduation, life seemed to improve. I attended college in the fall and managed to feel somewhat normal. My first semester at college was a success, so I planned to attend again for the spring semester. I ended up having to drop out due to an illness unrelated to my mental health. After I recuperated, I made the decision to get a job until I decided on a major. My first few months working were great, but my life became a mess when I learned the news my sister had suddenly passed away. My sister and I were always very close despite a 13 year age difference. She had a history of heart problems, but they couldn’t pinpoint an actual cause of death. After I lost my sister, I lost a part of myself. I had dealt with anxiety before, but I had never endured a severe panic attack until then. I was so upset that I couldn’t breathe. Sweat poured down my face, I lost feeling in my face, arms, and chest–I felt like I was going to either pass out or die. A few months prior, I was prescribed a medicine to help resolve my tension headaches as needed. The medicine also doubled as an anxiety medication. I took the prescribed dose and in a matter of 20-30 minutes, I felt calmer.

A couple of weeks flew by without another attack. Was I in the clear? I was still struggling to function as I attempted to cope with the loss of my sister. About a month later on Thanksgiving, my grandmother was rushed to the hospital  and had several blood clots in her lungs. We had also noticed that she wasn’t acting like herself, but we figured maybe she had endured a stroke. The doctors instead informed us that she was in the beginning stages of Alzheimer’s. The news was devastating. Within the next month, we had to move her to a nursing home where she could receive the care she needed. My previously managed anxiety began to unravel. I tried to hide my battle with anxiety at work, but it was quickly starting to show. I began having severe panic attacks at work. Overwhelmed, I sought the help of my doctor once again. He placed me on Paxil, but the weight gain was horrible. In just a few months, I had gained over 20lbs. It didn’t help lessen my panic attacks and now I needed to buy bigger clothes. My medicine was switched to Prozac, but the weight gain continued. I finally found Wellbutrin which helped me get through the tough times. I began to feel stable and after time, I was able to stop taking the medicine.

How am I these days? I am better than I used to be, but I still have a long ways to go. Anxiety, for me, is something that can be dormant for days, weeks, or even months. Sometimes certain things like large crowds can trigger my anxiety, but other times, I can’t pinpoint the “how and why” of my problem(s). Depression, on the other hand, is something that is more of a struggle for me. Some days I wake up feeling fine, but other days I don’t want to even get out of bed. I have learned that what I put into my body can really make a difference. Alcohol, which is a depressant, really stirs up my depression at times. I’m not saying that I stay away from alcohol completely, but I don’t drink as often as I used to. My best advice is don’t drink when you’re sad…don’t drink when you are mad. Processed foods should be avoided altogether. Whole foods provide the nutrients your body needs to function. Refined sugar and simple carbohydrates can take their toll on your mental and physical health. I have also started an exercise regimen to aid in my fight against depression.

Mental health issues are not something that should be kept private. There are so many people who think these issues make them weak, but it’s a sign that you’ve had to be strong for too long. There are some people who don’t understand mental illness, but there are plenty more of us that do. If you are needing help managing your depression, please talk to someone. We all need a support system whether it be a friend, family member, doctor, therapist or even someone online who has the same problem. I’ve included some links to some helpful sites below.

Using Mindfulness to Overcome Anxiety and Depression
13 Foods That Fight Stress and Depression

I know that life gets tough sometimes, but please, please, please remember that you are not alone. If you or a loved one are dealing with suicidal thoughts, please visit The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

Dirty Laundry: 11 tips for getting back into balance

As I was doing laundry yesterday, I thought to myself: sometimes it’s not just the laundry that needs cleaning in our lives. I’m not just talking about cleaning up the rest of the house, but cleansing ourselves from the negativity in our lives. Bad habits, negative people in our innermost circle, or maybe just a messy house can all lead to us being out of balance spiritually.

Lately, I’ve been feeling out of balance. I have cleaned up my diet, I’m drinking more water, started exercising, and doing my best to avoid negative people. I still feel drained. Most days, I could probably sleep the day away. I try my best to get a decent nights sleep, but I wake up feeling tired. What is a person to do when they are out of balance?

1. Reevaluate your diet. Are you eating enough? Are you eating too much? I don’t recommend counting calories, because eating becomes much more of a chore. Make sure you are eating plenty of whole foods. Processed foods will slow you down along with consuming caffeinated foods and beverages. Do you have any food allergies? Dairy, gluten, corn, and soy can wreak havoc on your system even if you have just a sensitivity.

2. Change your surroundings. If you have some vacation time, take a trip. If you don’t, use a day off (or two) from work to visit a nearby place you’ve always wanted to go. Sometimes all it takes is getting out of your element to make you focused and whole again.

3. Declutter. If you have lots of things that you don’t have a use for sitting around the house, believe it or not that can throw you off your game. I get stressed over being around a mess, but sometimes I don’t even realize what’s wrong with me. If you have things you want to get rid of, try having a garage sale or donate it to Goodwill or another organization.

4. Meditate. Sometimes you just need to take a break from everything and meditate. A few weeks ago, I was having bad dreams every night. A friend suggested that maybe I should start meditating again. Best. Decision. EVER. If you’re like me and have a hard time focusing during meditation, search on YouTube for meditation music. Focus on the music and your breathing. Meditation can work wonders for people.

Great Tips for Meditation:
Tara Brach
Good Life Zen

5. Take some “me” time. If you’re like a lot of us, we are always doing something for others. In today’s world, we get so consumed by the demands of our jobs, family, and relationships that we don’t take the time to do things for ourselves. Some may argue that they “don’t have time”, but I argue that you can make time. Always have to make dinner when you get home? Start meal planning and prepping on one of your days off. There’s an hour or more that you free up everyday during the week. Some people do meal prepping a couple times a week, but do what works best for you. Taking that extra time to take a yoga class, hit the gym, get a pedicure, or whatever makes you feel more connected…just do it.

Great sites for “how-to meal prep” and “meal prep ideas”:
Eats and Exercise by Amber
Thirty Handmade Days
Meal Prep Mondays
The Lean Green Bean

6. Get Outside. Are you inside for most of your work day? There’s a good chance you are not getting enough vitamin D. You may also be low on vitamin B which helps fight fatigue. Although there are supplements to help with vitamin deficiencies, it’s a good idea to consult with your physician before taking a supplement.

7. Cut out the negativity. Negativity, no matter where it comes from, is toxic. Have a friend who brings you down all the time? I am by no means saying you should cut that friend out of your lives, but I am suggesting that you evaluate whether that friend is worth the trouble. I would suggest discussing the issues with that person before cutting ties with them. Sometimes people are unaware of their behavior. Are you the one who is being negative? The negativity that comes out of our mouths may seem small, but those small things build up to really big problems. What you say about yourself and others could be dragging you down spiritually and physically.

8. Get creative. Pick up a pencil, paintbrush, camera, instrument, or whatever appeals to you. It doesn’t matter if you are any good, but what does matter is that you are taking time for yourself. Don’t be afraid to try something new. By trying new things we are opening ourselves up to another realm of possibilities. You never know…you might find out you have a special talent.

9. Volunteer. Someone somewhere needs your help. Isn’t it good to feel needed every now and again? Volunteering doesn’t cost a thing, but the feeling you receive after helping another soul is something you can’t put a price on. If you aren’t a people person, but you love animals, go volunteer at an animal shelter. Maybe just maybe you’ll find a special pet to give a loving home to. 🙂

10. Call up your best friend and hang out. Sometimes when the world feels as if it’s crashing down on me, I meet up with a friend. Sometimes all you need is a new perspective to get your head on straight.

11. Take a break from technology. I understand if your job requires you to use a computer, but what about when you come home? Every once in awhile you need to take a break from social media, computers, cell phones, and even the television. Pick up a book, take a walk, spend time with your family and pets (if you have them), and just be present.

What are your tips for getting back into balance?

What Pain Teaches Us

For some, pain is something that presents itself every once in awhile. For others, pain makes its presence known on a daily basis. Whether it is emotional or physical pain, pain takes a toll on its victims. I have dealt with the emotional pain of anxiety, depression, and abuse (verbal, some physical) since I was very young. One of the biggest problems is when the pain is so frequent that it becomes normal to you. When you are used to being inflicted with pain, you allow people to hurt you time and time again. You don’t recognize that these toxic people are bringing you down further and further. It takes something big and heartbreaking to shake you, to wake you up from the nightmare you have been trapped in.

In late July, I broke up with my fiancee. I have never been so heartbroken in my life. In my head I didn’t want to end things, but apparently my heart knew better. For months, things had been wonderful between us. I truly felt that I had found my soul mate. My life took a turn for the worse, and I ended up depressed as a result. She did her best to be supportive at first, but I could tell things weren’t the same between us. I eventually found what seemed to be the perfect job, but she seemed to resent how excited I was about the opportunity. Months went by with our roller coaster relationship going up and down. I found myself feeling down and unsure about our relationship. Were we going to last? What had happened to our perfect relationship? Things got bad again…really bad. We went from planning our future together to planning on what we would do if we broke up. Constant fighting, bickering, and stepping on egg shells led to me starting to pack my bags. Once things cooled off, we were able to work on our problems and we kissed and made up. I felt happy, relieved even. Things were working themselves out, I thought. It wasn’t long before things got bad again. I felt as if I was unable to be myself around her without making her angry at me. I tried my best to change any annoying habits or behavior, so she wouldn’t flip out on me. One day she came home and said we needed to talk. She explained that she needed space to figure things out. She reassured me that there was no one else. I asked questions to better understand her situation, but of course it didn’t really add up. She told me she wanted me to move out while she figured out what she wanted and needed. She expressed that she did still love me and hoped I would be there when she worked her problems out. It’s a long story, but to keep it shorter…there were a few people she was “talking to” while we were still together. There was indeed someone else.

The moral of the story is…pain hurts, but it is a tool for everyone to use and learn from. We accept the love we think we deserve. In this case I felt that I deserved that kind of treatment from my fiancee, because I was used to being treated that way by others. Do I still think of my ex as my soul mate? No. I didn’t realize at first all of the good that came out of this break up, because the pain of letting go was too much. After a month or two, I realized how much better off I am. I don’t have to constantly tip toe around anyone anymore. I am free to find someone who thinks I’m funny…someone who l can be myself around. Everyone deserves a person who will love them…flaws and all.